unchurched survey 1

I found this interview quite refreshing and also upseting at the same time. I interviewed my friend phil who does not regularly attend church accept for a college and career group occasionally. The one thing that he brought up in the interview was about Christians being judgmental and I'v heard this many times and this is a criticism that Christians get a lot and I believe we can be too judgmental a lot of times. But the thing he said was that "Most pastors start off with a tender heart, but develop a bitter condescending attitude over time as they begin to realize their success as a Moral Ruler." I think that this can be true sometimes and can happen when Christians especially pastors give into pride. I find it ironic that one of the main concepts of Christianity, well at least in my opinion, the idead of being humble. Being humble because we can't earn salvation and we can't receive it on our own and this is what we preach. But then as Christians I think one of the biggest things that we struggle with is pride. We can be judgmental sometimes and think that we are better than others just becuase we are saved. And I find this very said. He also shared with me, some of his bad experiences with Christian leaders and counselors, also we being judgmental and being ignorant I would say in the situation that he shared with me. I have been finding the issue of being judgmental as Christians very real and disturbing recently. I have also noticed this in my work, where I work as a banquet server working many events from weddings to business meetings and all. And I notice the people that are rude to me or usually condescending or ignorant are usually the Christian church groups. This problem with pride I think is a big issue for the church and needs to be talked about. I'm not saying that we need to change what we believe or our message but can we go about it in a way that is not prideful, especially if that's what were preaching?