Unchurched survey 2

This interview right off the bat brings up the same issue of that with my last interviewer. Before my interviewe, Jim, would respond to my email answering my survey questions. He emailed me and asked me before he would answer my questions if I would be able to listen to his thoughts, beliefs and lifestyles without judging him or think less of him. I guess my first interviewe is the only one who thinks Christians can be judgmental or prideful. Just thought that was ironic, but sad as well. The one thing that got me in this interview was that one asked why do you think most people don't attend church he said "If they are like me , I could say lazy. I would much rather take that hour or two or three and help my fellow man, and I do volunteer to be with and help others. I don't think going to church on Sunday makes one a better Christian, especially, if they act like a jerk the rest of the week. I don't need the show." Well I guess that shows that he thinks were hypocritical. What is happening in most churches when they can go to church weekly, but during the rest of the week be a jerk and a hypocrite. This makes me ask the question, what is the church doing wrong in this matter? Also maybe we aren't representing God and Jesus in the manner that he should be represented and really is. I think that we make Jesus look bad a lot. Maybe this is why so many people have more problems with Christians or the church then they do with Jesus himself. He also brought up a point about wars generally being fought for some religious reason and almost always being fought in the name of God or some religion. I haven't really thought about this until now, but I do see some truth in it. What is it with Christians always having or wanting to fight for their beliefs to be shoved down people's throats?